Pearls Without a String
In a moment of real happiness, or in a moment of truly serving another, there is no no ego, no I who says, I am happy.
But in a moment of dissatisfaction, the experience of separateness arises. Memory strings such moments of separateness on an imaginary thread & calls them me, as if they had continuity. But they are just gray pearls without a string.
Relax. Spend more time doing what makes you happy, and more time serving from the heart. Then there's no you who has to do any spiritual work to transcend your ego.